"Date A Girl Who Reads"

Monday, March 07, 2011

I recently stumbled upon this, written by Rosemary Urquico, and found it entertaining and true. It was being spread around through Tumblr and Facebook, and I thought I'd share it with you all since I really liked it:

"Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.


She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.


Buy her another cup of coffee.


Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.


It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.


She has to give it a shot somehow.


Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.


Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.


Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.


If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.


You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.


You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.


Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.


Or better yet, date a girl who writes."


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43 comments :

Anna G said...

Excuse me but that was amazing. I need to read more. I don´t have any books right now but I´m convince now that I need to go buy a few books.

Pratishtha Durga said...

Did you know that there is another version of this? "date a girl who cannot read". And that's just as mazing and moving. Will try and find its link for you. This piece is fabulous too...

Maddy said...

That was awesome!! The best part for me was the last line :) What a great way to end it! I have to send this to my sister! She's an avid reader!

Alex said...

Oh thank you so much for sharing this Audrey; it's absolutely beautiful. Do you mind if I pop it on my blog at some point? I'll link back to you :)

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Just beautiful!

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

Um I love that! I'm saving it so I can turn it into wall art for my one day library.

ching said...

oh wow.. this is so true. so many loving conversations are created between the author and the reader..and a writer isnt that bad either. thanks for sharing.

Krystal said...

aw, that is really great, I hadn't read it...very interesting :)

Cafe Fashionista said...

Oh, I am in love with this piece. Fully and completely in love! :)

nicolthepickle said...

YAY!!!! I'm cheering in my head! I loved that.

janettaylor said...

That s true! :)

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modanista junkie said...

I'm a huge bookworm!! Love reading. Lovely post.

xoxo,
melrod

Dancing Branflake said...

Whoa! I am so that girl it's a little unnerving. This post just made my day.

The Stylish Nomad said...

Love the ending! "Date a girl who writes!" Great story

xx
Kaylee

Susu Paris Chic said...

Yay, dating a gal who writes is the bestest!

What Makes Me Happy said...

Being an avid reader, I love this! The end bit about "date a girl who writes" is adorable :) xoxo Marissa

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Absolutely love this - what a great sentiment and I agree 100% :)

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Katie said...

I love that!

Josie said...

This is gorgeous! I love it.
xo Josie
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Isabel said...

my library card is so old that i actually spelled my name wrong. HAHA. i was probably 8 or 9 when i got it.

Comewhinewithme said...

Amazing and so true! Truly inspiring post. Thanks:-)

Oh to Be a Muse said...

oh i loved this--great find Audrey. good thing i not only read, but I also write...and shop. :) i love when people talk about the benefits of reading!

Imogen said...

Beautiful and running out of closet space because of books how sweet.

Punctuation Mark said...

very beautiful piece and so true!!!

Madeline Weber said...

my new years resolution is to read a book a month! january was vixen, february was secret life of bees, and ahhh i haven't started for march! any suggestions?

xx http://madelineweber.blogspot.com/

OceanDreams said...

love this - writing and reading are so important and i've made a goal to read 24 books this year so i can stay on top of reading all of the time! and of course i can never stay away from my blog...

Grace said...

Aww, this is so sweet! And as a girl who reads myself, I can't help but agree! By the way, I love the song of the day today. :)

Mimi said...

amazing!!! thanks for sharing! :D

<3, Mimi
http://whatmimiwrites.blogspot.com/

sexylegsandbody said...

Very interesting Audrey, thanks for sharing.

Take care and enjoy your week.
Colin.

emma wallace said...

I loved this! It's so true!

pau said...

that phrase is so lovely and true!!

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la petite fashionista said...

this is beautiful! & makes me want to read even more ;)

Marcia B. said...

Good luck studying on your midterms! It's all about the book smarts!! Love your blog posts as usual!

Samantha Elisabeth said...

This is an absolutely adorable post. The only gripe I have is that a girl can totally love books and clothes and just simply have an exploding closet and room because of both. But otherwise, so very true!

yiqin; said...

Great post :)

Tara said...

I love reading so much, nice post :)

Lee Oliveira said...

Very beautiful.. so true tho.
lee x

Rachel {Inspiration in Italy} said...

This is so cute! A woman who reads is a woman of intelligence. I actually prefer writing more than reading...odd I know!

Pearl said...

Wow
I love every word written.
So true!

Love it!


Pearl

Fashion Tales.... said...

Very nice post & beautifully written. -xxoo

TheBeautyFile said...

Outrageous. I LOVE this post, I can not describe in words how much I love it.

Dani said...

I love this so much! It definitely inspires me to read more- there are so many books I have on my list to get to! I showed this to my friend and now she's in love with it too.

Just little old me said...

love it :) here's my response: date a girl who writes! http://freakishdiary.blogspot.com/2011/03/date-girl-who-writes.html

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